Why don’t people chase their dreams?

Many studies have shown that people eventually give up on their dreams and resign themselves to a life that is less glamorous or grandiose than what they expected. This happens for many reasons but mainly it is because “life keeps getting in the way”; this can be translated into a variety of meanings. Some of which involve family issues, financial problems, political interventions, and a whole spectrum of things that can intercede with one’s achievement of his/ her goal.

An article that can be found here suggests in detail the eight main reasons why people give up on their dreams. But I would like to focus on the main issue that is presented when one cannot fulfil their dreams: money.

We live in a society that runs on money. Americans actually have a saying that goes “money makes the world go round”. Society gives so much importance to money that the main reason people give up un their childhood dreams is because their chosen career does not earn them enough money. Sadly, people now relate happiness with the number on their bank account and how easier your life is if that number is large enough.

That is probably the most heartbreaking reality of all. Dreams are shattered because of something as basic as money. This is why we should start teaching the value of experiences over the value of currency. Focus dreams on something that goes beyond financial commodity.

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Projection

Tsotsi is a 2005 South African film, one of the few which show the reality of its country by a director born in the same country. The film follows a young man named Tsotsi, who after stealing a woman’s car notices there is a baby inside. After crashing the car, Tsotsi carries the baby home and decides to raze it as his own.

At first we see Tsotsi as some one who’s dream is to become a gangster, rule and have power over other, but as he spends time with the infant one can see how he reflects him self on the child. Orphan since a very young age, Tsotsi grew up in the street, with out help from others he became stronger and colder, having nearly no concern for others and intending only to inspire fear in the rest. Although this reality made him tough he soon shows the audience he has no desire in passing this towards the child, he encounters a young single mother who can help feed and watch for the baby, giving the infant what Tsotsi never had.

As the relationship between the young mother and Tsotsi moves forward he opens more about his past and is encouraged to face his own nature and past.

The “Key” to Success

We have all heard at some point in our lives about the legendary “key to success” or “recipe for success”. This idea suggests that there is one specific way to succeed and one must follow these instructions step by step in order to guarantee happiness, or, despite the redundancy, achieve success.

However, as I pointed out before, this recipe is a myth and at best it’s a vague set of guidelines that claim to be incredibly useful. The idea of a “recipe” has been around for as long as “The American Dream” and we have all been struggling to find the supposed key ever since.

How has this idea affected the new generations? Is it right to teach this idea?

Telling children that there is a surefire way to achieve your dreams would be telling them a blunt faced lie. In reality, many people do not succeed in achieving their dreams because they give up after realising that following the steps was not enough. Hence, we end up in a society full of unsatisfied people who don’t dare to dream. This is because people tend to tell children that the only way they’re going to achieve their dreams is by following these instructions:

  • Get good grades in school
  • Get into college
  • Get a job
  • Have a family
  • SUCCESS!

Instead of convincing the youngsters that there is one definite way of achieving success, it would be wiser to teach them about perseverance, and that what makes one person happy does not necessarily apply to them. There is more than one way of achieving success and success comes in different forms for everybody.

In short, there is no recipe or key so stop looking for it. Instead, we should teach kids to live instead of hammering an empty idea into their heads.

A Dreams Illusory Effect

Pak Chan-uk’s film Oldboy is the second part of a vengeance themed trilogy. It follows the story of a man named Oh Dae-Su, who’s desire of revenge blindes him from seeing the truth. After being locked inside of a room for fifteen years, Dae-Su is given the option to kill the man who imprisoned him only if he can discover the reason why someone wanted to torture him in this way. Without any hesitation Dae-Su follows his captors lead to take revenge upon him, without noticing the tramp into which he was being led in to.

The film, among many other things, touches the idea of being blinded by ones objective. In the case of Oh Dae-Su, his desire for vengeance is so strong that his captor has made him fall in love for his daughter, which he has not seen in fifteen years and barely remembers. After achieving revenge but understanding the horrible truth Dae-Su punishes him self in an Oedipus way cutting his own tongue. Although instead of leading him self in an actual exile he decides to find a way of forgetting the truth, accepting his defeat and the mistake which was made by blinding himself with rage.

Dad, Mom … what about my/ our goals?

It is not new the fact that people set themselves goals not only from personal interest, but have a great influence from what social goals are and have been like. The way people loose their capacity for choosing what is best for them only seems to be unclear, and instead, people worry about what the persona sitting beside choses. Many have used the “American Dream” as life reference to guide their goals and actions towards something they would or should like to achieve. The problem though, is the inevitable cross-cultural difference, which defines the entire process and goals in the first place.

Selfish people think for themselves and their own sake in life; therefore, shared opinions are not admitted. This can be either positive or negative. Positive because one’s truest dreams can be achieved and may turn out real because they are close-minded enough to seek them no matter what, without letting a negative gap open. Then there are people, not completely but mostly, contrary to the previously described who let themselves be guided by people who have had enough experiences of either winning something or failing during the action. Those earning experiences tend to fulfill people in a better way because it empowers them to continue or set themselves higher goals.

We, humans, are social animals; therefore, we depend and rely on our partners or peers to either compete or help each other when necessary. The objective and indirect purpose is to belong, the feeling of belonging makes people act in a certain way. The reason then, for Indians to point out their goals as shared with their parents, is because they accept there is a more mature voice of experience that has been through different situations allowing them to know better. The problem though, is people who are very insecure tend to do this by refuging in their relatives or siblings because it is easier, and therefore, let they be absolutely blind about any decision-making situation.

Overall, people like to be and feel part of something or social group, but when coming to goals they can turn either too individualistic or too dependent. Extreme opposite sides have never been considered as good point reference, nevertheless, people cannot leave with either competition or sane company from a peer or other self-being.

Introduction about dreams and aspirations. “How do people try to achieve their dreams?”

Every child has once dreamed about what they were going to be when they grew up. Whether they were aspiring to be policemen, princesses, sports star, singer or many other glamorous careers where they imagine they will be happy. As these children grow older, their dreams change and are more grounded, however they do not stop dreaming. The human mind is a very complex thing where we can imagine ourselves in situations which resemble the reality we find ourselves in, but not quite. Some people dream to escape reality, others to find hope for a better future, others find inspiration in their thoughts and are motivated by them.

For the purposes of this blog we will focus on the dreams people have in hopes of having a brighter future, and what we deem to be a successful person.

Paul Hudson, a writer for the website Elite Daily, wrote the article which we will be studying called “The Difference Between Your Reality and Dreams and How You Can Make Them One and The Same” where he explains what defines a successful person. He concludes that dreams give us hope and motivates people create a better future because it gives them the idea that they can change their situation by achieving their goals. Thus we have a reality we live in and we have the power to alter that reality. We must act accordingly in order to bring our dreams to reality.”

In short, a successful person would be considered him or her who has been able to bring dreams and reality as close together as possible in order to achieve their happiness.

For the full article click here.

Power & Ethnicity

The power and amount of energy invested in actions with definite goal ahead also affect the individual’s behavior. Power is usually related with confidence, and the way people make use of it defines the way they approach their main goals in life. Hence, behavior seems conditions by the way society pushes and limits oneself into achieving something, whatever that is. Then there is self-confidence as well, the way one is able to have feedback from their peers and neighbors of even friends and family are part of the motifs of seeking a dream without hesitations.

According to two studies (one with Asian and US scholars, while the second one, instead of Asian, asked African American scholars), skin tone is a physical characteristic that adheres to power and remits; therefore, to a social self-esteem range by which people guide them to prove differently to society. The way people can overcome with different and numerous obstacles had straight relation with their skin color, empowering them enough and finally encouraging them to give their selves away to their dreams and goals.

This derives into life expectancies. The lower the self-esteem, then the less power they believe they have to change their lives and natural course of fate; therefore, the scenario suddenly comes to be more pessimistic and full of doubts. These have great repercussion in a previously set plan to achieve things, since they make one believe it is not enough. Whether you make great efforts, there is never going to be e chance. In part this can be positive as it prepares people for frustration and maybe make them able to live with that intense emotional responsibility, or it can make you believe society has no positive tools and things to celebrate with no since you are not rising your life expectancies.

The image of things come to be very important in terms of publicity, but in goals, the way we think of ourselves out there in the world competing with others to achieve something has a crucial role in our behavior. Is the physical face of something we are or will be dealing with, makes us understand better the importance of what we are striking for. The way standards can be broken and overcome is through self-esteem and better self-confidence than the one African Americans admitted.

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